Gender stereotyping

[triskellian]

There I was, cooking the dinner and waiting for My Man to get home to eat it, and to fix the washing machine so I could wash some clothes. When he got home, he fixed the washing machine, and then the drain from the kitchen sink.

OK, although the facts of the preceeding statement are all true, the implication is not.

I was cooking because I like cooking, and he'd been in Leeds all day, then driven home, and it's Only Fair, not to mention a nice thing to do for him.

The clothes I wanted to wash were mostly mine, but only because the last load of washing was mostly his. Washing duties generally divide fairly evenly.

I couldn't fix the washing machine because he was the last person to unscrew the filter, and rescrewed it too tightly for me to be able to open it. On that occasion of him unscrewing the filter, I had to show him where it was.

The drain from the kitchen sink only showed itself as buggered while he was unscrewing the washing machine filter, when he was already covered with dirty water, and I was still cooking.

So my cooking, and his fixing of recalcitrant household items are in no way gender stereotyping, but I'm still over-justifying. It's still something I'm sensitive about. We don't have a gender stereotyped sort of relationship, we both believe in equality and such things, and, in fact, neither of us is especially domesticated. So why am I sensitive about it?